Had a failed parathyroid operation still confused

I am a 56 year old female. In 2005 I had hyperparathyroidism. I also had noduled on my thyroid and had half of my thyroid out. I had a general surgeon do my operation which was a mistake. He failed to find the bad parathyroid. He removed one good parathyroid so I have three left. I have a brother that also had this disease. I had a blood test in 2008 and my calcium is up again to 10.5, today it is 10.6 my pth is normal. I have had many blood tests since my first operation and my calcium goes up and down but it is always high. I have bad osteoporosis for my age, I also am getting alot of heart palpataions lately I have slow digestion and bad acid reflux but I control it by diet, very bland diet, if I eat something that brings on acid reflux I have it so bad I throw up in the middle of the night. I get upset very easily. I have been to many dr's as I feel I need an operation but one dr had me waiting and told me that he wants to wait until my calcium gets higher or I have kidney stones. (bad advice) Another dr told me that I have high calcium and some people just have high calcium in their systems. My family thinks I am crazy and that nothing is wrong with me. I am beginning to wonder if I am. My question is where do I go from here?